Because Of Vs. In Spite Of

Actions that lead to results can be tricky - they can give us the wrong data that leads us to make bad decisions in the future.

The difficulty is this - did you get result because of the action or in spite of the action.


Because of actions clearly lead to the result. For example, Because I picked up my socks and put them in the hamper, they were ready to be washed.


In spite of actions is where you get the result you want, but your action had nothing to do with it. For example, I throw all my socks on the floor randomly and they always get washed.


Too many times we think "in spite of" actions are "because of" actions and we do them repeatedly or suggest other people do it. In fact, "in spite of" actions can be detrimental. This is why it is important to constantly be re-evaluating beliefs and actions.